How to Comment. FB or Blogger style.

Dear Blogsphere family. I'm sorry. I've missed you. It's been too long since my last post and I am ashamed to say when my last comment was. Thanks to Dual Mom for still reading and commenting (thanks to the lurkers too, it's still creapy people. Comment so I have believe that your still here. Kinda like roll call?)

Anyway my excuses for not blogging are...

and...

so with some liquad happy...

I write you this...

Let's talk about my other internet site I love porn. Facebook. It's great. Wonderful. Fantastic. It's brought me to tears over the people I have reconnected with on it. Love it.

Most people say I am one of the most amusing FBer's they read, and I often make their days with my witty comments. I don't so much see witty, I just see smartassness on my daily rants about being trapped a SAHM with a 4 and 2 year old. It's bound to be funny, cute or gross.

But I have a complaint. Maybe I have been trained by blogger to well, or maybe I've just got way more to say then everyone else. My issue is not when people put their "what's on your mind" status, that's fine put what you want.

It's the comments.

Like when you see someone with Birthday wishes... I almost don't want to say "Happy Birthday" with everyone else knowing my email will get loaded with everyone they know saying "Happy Birthday!!" I also don't like when people point out the obvious.

Like if you say you fell down the stairs. And you have responses like... "Ouch" or "That hurt huh?" or my favorite when they have nothing to say "LOL" save your fingers and keep it to yourself.

Don't get me wrong I like to leave comments but I try to make them worthwhile to both me and the readers. Maybe it's just me. But same goes for blogger. When people leave comments just to leave comments, it's stupid. It doesn't count in my book. It needs to be personal. Kinda like your trying?

So with me and Blogger, I won't comment unless I've got something to say, and I won't read blogs unless I have the time to really comment. That's why we blog. Or at least I like to blog to get comments. It's like reasurance that someone out there still reads you. Or your not just being stalked by readers. (creepy I tell you)

Alright I am off my rambly post on FB commenting, but to end this and leave you with something of worth, be sure to check out the book

"If you give a mom a martini..." is a great little book with 100 ways to find 10 blissful minutes for yourself, lots of great ideas, and many of them I do. One of my favorite ideas to do is "Get your pregame on" and I do just that, I get up before the kids. Around my house I can, my babies are wonderful and sleep till 8 or 9 so I get up at 7, get my coffee, and read my email. Sometimes I have my iPod in, and breakfast done before the kids. So I am up and ready to go.

I also like that it's not a story, each page is a new idea, since I don't have many freebee minutes to myself it works. Alright I need to end this post and go blog surfing. Comment my ass off and tell my bloggy friends I still love them. Until then, LEAVE ME COMMENTS YOU WANKERS!!

Stoned Beetles.

An arguement between Spaghetti and I. Mind you it's not an angry arguement, more like one of those healthy ones over random life topics.

This one being music.

He makes a comment about how I don't know any of the Rolling Stones. He is right, I don't. He says I am a freak that probably likes the Beetles. I do.

He is appauled by this idea, and does the whole crinkly face thing, then makes fun of me because he says the Beetles are all pop music, and it's all gay tambourine shit. Gag. I said well if you wanted me to choose between the two bands. Sure I would pick the Beetles.

He was completly freaked out by now. I was confused as to why he didn't figure this one out on his big boy own. I mean I love pop music right? Sooooo....

Then the discussion grows to how Spaghetti thinks that Pop is SO dead, and it's never as good as rock. I said Pop is just as good as his rock (don't get me wrong I love rock too. He just isn't the biggest pop fan. Maybe a closet pop fan)

So I said Pop is dead? Pick up our iPod and tell me who falls under the Genre Pop. Lets see who is SO dead right now.

Black Eyed Peas?
Lady Gaga?
Britney?
P!nk?
Beyonce?
Uncle Kracker?

Need I go on dear? I was right. For once, he didn't have much to say but grumble on about how I still picked the damn Beetles. Like I said, the above list would be my first choice over the Beetles, but Pop music, and Hip Hop are my favorites. Rock and alternative are awesome too. Just not my first choice. (please don't ask me about Country. It's not a pretty response. I have about 10 songs that are country I can bear. AND they can not be played back to back. I will freak the fuck out. Country makes me twitch)

Just wondering who you would pick. Also is it that weird that I can't name ONE Rolling Stone (well I can now, because Spaghetti was screaming about Mic Jagger (I know I slaughtered the spelling. Effing Blogger STILL doesn't have a spell check on this new version. Or I'm a tard who can't figure it out) and how I do know him. WTF woman. Either way. I was amused that he was upset that I didn't know a RS name, or a song, but to my defense I can't name a Beetle either.

Also just so you don't think my parents were freaks, we listened to Fleetwood Mac, Hewy Lewis, John Melloncamp, Billy Joel. That kinda stuff...

Comments on Verify and comments

I have to make a comment ,and a question. It's all related to blogging...

First off, I know that some people including myself hate the word verification thingy, when you go to leave a comment. Its annoying. But it's there for a reason. Now I know what Heather said, it is probably pretty random for someone to pick on your blog.

Understand this though. I have been picked on, not by computer generated comments. But of a retard that knows to much about me, and is fucking with me. I just got this blog (even though my old blog is almost 2 years old. I had to get all new and go incognito. So I will not be removing my word verification.

Next, is my question. So when your going to comment in someones blog. Do you read all the comments first, or do you leave a comment then read all the other comments. Or do you just leave a comment then never read the others? Or do you lurk, read all the comments and just leave? Just curious.

I personally, need to just leave a comment, before I read the other comments. It fucks with my train of thought, and if I say something like another person just said, and I read it, I won't leave a message then, cuz again it messes with me. Then I feel all lurkerish... Just wonderin...

A lesson in eating.

When mommy is making lunch for everyone. And she asks you to eat. It is not like you just ate breakfast. You ate breakfast at 9 am. You had a snack around 11. It was now 1:30 pm, and your 2 1/2 year old self needed lunch and a nap.

You chose not to eat. Fine. We all ate. Offering you countless times that I would make you something. You chose to not eat. Fine.

Elbow dance with Daddy, then the whoo whoo whoo song with mommy. Then it was nap time. Up to bed, and once in bed you start the hysterics of scream/whine/telling me what you want. After countless times I figured it was "Bananas and eggs now"

Silly child. Lunch was over a half an hour ago. Nap time now. You can have Bananas and eggs for dinner. If you choose.

She screamed like a limb was missing (Mud this is an CIO learning moment for ya) I let her scream, Spaghetti was going nuts. I told him to go down to the t.v. room. After 25 minutes. Silence. She was asleep.

She is at the age of knowing that she can ask for things to delay nap or bedtime. I do give in to somethings. But Bagel is learning I am not a short order cook. Mama cooks when mama cooks. She had countless invites for lunch.

She dealt with it. Spaghetti hid. And I blogged. So a lesson was taught. I don't starve my children, but I also don't need to cater to them. I love them, giving them snacks all day. But I need a schedule and so she must learn, as will Spike that I have a schedule, and rules.

I get to be the bad guy. Fine with me.

Worth watching

It's long. It's 27 minutes and 10 seconds. I took that time to listen to what Obama had to say. I am voting for Obama. I know nobody talks about it. But it's my blog damn it. And I want to say I am voting for Obama. I am proud of what he stands for, and I cried through a good part of this video.

I can only hope he can do what he says he want too. I hope he is my President. I am proud to vote in just a few days, and as I have said before. This mama is for Obama.

I know 27 minutes and 10 seconds is forever in this day and age. And even though I already knew I am voting for Obama, I still wanted to watch this. It breaks down what he wants to do for us as a country, and I can only hope he gets the change to do it.

Be sure to vote. Be sure to use the right you have. And remember for all you women out there. Just remember what women did for us to have this right to vote. Use your right to vote. And if you don't, please refrain from having any political conversation with me. I mean, how do you have say in something you chose not to participate in? No really, just go vote. If you don't know where your registered to go, I am sure you can find out.

I have to say I went to refresh my blog page, and the music came on... "Dear Mr. President" by P!nk... how ironic...

CIO

Now some of you may agree, and some may not. I am a CIO mom. (Cry It Out) This is hard to do. Let me tell you I am not ruthless, or evil. My children are feed, clean, and perfectly safe when I am forced to imply the CIO mommy.

I had full on CIO babies today. This was the first time, I had both Bagel to the left, and Spike to the right. Each in there rooms, crying to not take naps. Sigh. Both children, up at 8 am, had breakfast, played, went to the park, had lunch, changed and clean. Now off to nap at 1:30 because after 5 1/2 hours straight, I need a break. Possibly some food, and a potty break for myself.

I really had a hard time when Bagel was young, it broke my heart, and about 95% of the time, I stuck to letting her CIO. Same with Spike (oh, but it's harder with him. He's my little man, and I don't like to see him sad) But it's good for them. It teaches them I am there for them. But they need a nap, I will not come because your over tired, and grumpy this just then shows me you need a nap.

I once was scrapbooking at a local crop. And we were talking kids, and parenting, and a mom had a 2 year old daughter and was due with her son. She had never let her daughter CIO, and was thinking it was a good idea, now with the baby and all. My advice was sure, CIO is a good idea. Good luck now that she is two, and is used to you coming all the time. Now to each there own, with there parenting ways.

I love the way I do it, and after 20 minutes of screaming, as I attempt to finish my lunch, and Birthday Blog my Mom, it finally stopped. Both asleep. Some days though I just can't take it. I go way down stairs, to the art room, or the t.v. room.

So if you have any questions on CIO go ahead and ask, but remember. You do your thing. I do mine. I feel as though my way, the CIO way, gets me more sleep, and sanity. JMO.

Kreativ Blogger you and me!

Look at me! I got an award! Fancy pants! Thanks to my new sister Becky, she has awarded me a blog award! But not just any old blog award! This one comes with a job!! And even though I put off any type of job like it's the plague, I will do my best to follow through with my new job, as Kreativ Blogger.

Here are the new job rules.

I must post this pretty new award in a blog.

I must post 6 things I value

I must post 6 things I do not value

I must tag 6 bloggers

That is it. If I tag you, take your award with pride. Here are mine, in no particular order

6 things I value

1. Family first rule- Always family first, turn off the t.v., call your friend back, get off the computer. Spend time with family. It doesn't happen enough.


2. Laughter- Goes hand in hand with happiness, smiling, all that good stuff that makes you warm and fuzzy.


3. My Pets- There company is unmatched. And there loyalty is nonhuman. Love them.


4. Technology- With out it I am lost. We all are. No cell, no internet, no t.v. we would die.


5. Myself- I value myself, not in an big ego kind of way. But more of a I am proud of who I am, what I do and how I act. Self esteem is something I have, not over cocky but strong.


6. Every minute- Use them. I love to use every minute I can, I mean your life isn't really that long, and so I do everything. I rock out in the car by myself. Who care what the douche bag next to you thinks. You need to make the time to do it. Yes I am busy, I have kids, pets, house, and a stay at home business that I run. But I still find the time to read, draw, stamp, scrapbook, play with my kids, take baths and hang out with Spaghetti. Use your time wisely.

6 things I do NOT value

1. Haters- From my free spirit, to the fact that I own a home. I really hate haters. They just need to understand I make the best of what I got. Go on and do your own thing. Get your own damn haters then...


2. Fake- Don't be fake! Don't pretend to be cool, or what you think is cool. For fucks sake, I graduated H.S. Get over yourself!


3. Overly Religious- Bah, don't get your knickers in a bunch. I just can't stand those people, Christian, Jehovah, whatever, DO NOT JUDGE ME. I will not go to hell, I am no less then you are, and seriously, Religion is good for you and all. But some people need to get a fucking hobby.


4. Negativity- Ugg! I can not stand when someone is going on and on and on and on about something. It won't help the situation. And now you just annoyed everyone around you. I mean I do bitch about things but some people really need to chill, and realize that when you think your getting a 6" paper flower and you get a 2" paper flower, it is not the end of the scrapbooking world.


5. People that lack social skills- Kinda weird but I find that there are people out there that just don't get the basics of social life her on earth. Like conversation. Not saying you have to be like me and start a conversation in the bathroom, but maybe if your in mixed company, attempt to converse. Or just understand why your not liked, since you don't choose to converse in company. Tipping. I don't work anymore where tipping was a part of the norm. But when you don't tip because you just don't have the money, you probably shouldn't be out anyway. (I get not tipping an asshole because they suck) Spaghetti serves beer at a famous baseball stadium, and tips are HUGE part of his income. Tip after each beer, yes it's his job, but just like waitress's and stripping. Tips are a part of there life. Staring. This one is in particular to my sister, Frances, I can't stand going to the hilly billy ass towns around us and seeing the inbread freaks STARE at her. Dude, she doesn't have 8 arms, just a little head turning. But the best part is when the parents are staring too. What a joke.


6. Racism and Homophobes- Two things I DO not like. Period. I have no respect for people who are racist. I hate the "dot head" comments, or the Arabs that want to run a Dunkin Donuts, what the fuck does it matter? I mean really, they just want what our families wanted. A better life here in America. The "N" word sends me through the roof, seriously what century do you live in? Ugg, and since I am whitebread myself, I am in a small 99% whitebread town, next to a 99% whitebread town. So of coarse there is comments. But I have been learning that I have the balls to say something. Not rude, but just a "what does there color or race matter?" comment usually reminds them that not everyone is whitebread, and that is fine with me. Homophobes suck. Period. You really again need a century check. If it makes you uncomfortable, then maybe you just need a bit more culture in your life. Really you do. I attend the Gay Pride Parade, two years now. And I love it. I go with my cousin and his partner, and Aeriel goes along as my date to the parade. Gays are just like you. No really they are. Eating, sleeping, pooping, breathing, there choice of partner should not be why you judge them. Judge someone by there character, and who they are. And if a book is telling you that it is wrong to be gay. Maybe you should look outside your thousand year old book, and realize it's 2008.

OK now that I am off my soapbox about all things good and evil, here are my 6 tagged...

1. Aerial over at A Day in the Life of...
2. Chandler over at Maternal Mirth
3. Frances over at Inside Susie's Head
4. Iowa Friend over at Just Jayme
5. This Mom over at This Mom's ramblings...
6. Jaci over at Ravings of a Mad Housewife

And as always if you are offended by my posts, please remember this is my blog, and my opinion. I am right here, not you. Want to be right? Blog about it on your own site.

Sunday's Soapbox. Color Blind.

I have to say I am appalled at the maturity level of some adults in this country. I really am. I was watching the news last night, and it was older people, no just seniors either. Who were talking about the vote. Many of them said they were Democrats, and would have voted Hilary in, no problem. But now that the Democratic choice is Obama, they won't vote for him because... he is black... really? I mean the fact that he is educated, smart and speaks very well. Stands for everything we need right now in this country, but because he has a better tan then you... I guess I just don't get it.

I mean when I recently found out that a friend of the family said she was a Republican, I shrugged my shoulders and said, whatever. We all have our opinions. But when this same person made a comment that she would never vote for a black person, made me sick. I mean really? I don't know my stats for sure, but I'm thinking Obama is only a small percent African American... but again I don't get where that matters?

Maybe because I am so many different nationalities, I just can't pick one. I hate on those little forms I have to choose "Caucasian" really? I am just white? No, I am Italian, Polish, German, French, English, and American Indian. Spaghetti is Irish, German, and Welsh. (probably more but that is what I know)

I mean I get if your voting because of what someone stands for. But to vote based on there color? I mean you do know that it's 2008 right? I mean I am hoping to no end that Obama is the president. I really don't discuss this kinda stuff, because I guess it offends people.

Well I am kinda offensive, and I feel like sharing my offensive feelings on the presidential election this morning...

I believe in abortion. Sick, twisted, evil. Sure, but when some creep rapes you, and your stuck with a kid that makes you want to vomit just thinking about it. Really... I should just suck it up and deal with it? I mean I am all for people who are just sloppy to not have abortions, I mean I have relatives that kick out kids and no they should not be granted the right to an abortion, because the kid would be a burden. But your telling me you agree with someone who says that if your raped, your forced to have sex with someone, you now HAVE to carry that baby? Are you fucking kidding me?

I believe in Gay marriage. Not sure weather Obama has stated he is for or against this, but for someone to be making it illegal for gay marriage. Just blows my mind. Again this is your religion your pushing on us, not just political views. Gays are JUST LIKE YOU. Amazing, they love and feel just like you do. They want a home and a family, and a happy life. Just like you. It should not be our choice to say you can or can not get married, just because of your choice of partner.

I also am afraid of someone who has such strong religious views to be second in command of my country. Leave your religion at home. I don't want your religion to control my country. period.

I know that most of the above is from Sara Palin, and that she is only running for VP. But at the age of McCain and his health issues, it scares the shit out of me that she could be the president. Shudder. She is Bush with a skirt, and very honestly that way of running this country has not been very good. We can't handle any more.

I guess if you stand for whatever it is McCains party stands for good for you. But I stand where I stand on Obama and Biden's side. I think what they have to offer is a change we all need. But when you straight out tell me that because of a color or their race, you would not vote for them?

Comments like this, make me realize that I have been hanging around racist, biased, ignorant people. And to overlook it because of someones age, or where they grew up is disgusting. They need to see that black, white, yellow, brown, whatever you want to categorize people in, is just insane. I don't get it. Sorry to say this really drives a wedge in our friendship, as does with our families friendship with you. I do love you, but you need to remove the ignorance, and see that we are all just people. We all eat, shit, breath and live just like you.

Well off my Sunday morning soapbox, and on that note. This mama is for Obama.

Oh and this post is my opinion. And my opinion is right on my blog. If you are racist or believe that gay marriage is wrong, or if your a gun toting religious freak. I really don't care to here your opinion. Keep it to yourself, or post it on your own blog. My blog, my opinion, I am right, and you are wrong. Don't like it? Go away.